We received a phone call last night. It was late, just before 9, so I figured it was a telemarketer as I picked up. Now, I try to pick up whenever I can lately since many have the house number as Bella’s business number for AVON. As it was, there wasn’t a telemarketer on the end.
Apparently it was the FW’s [let's go with First Wife for now] new in-laws. They were passing through our town, though we think they planned to pass through, on their way from Canada to Florida to visit FW and her family.
Not only did they reinforce information we had learned through Myspace, like her marriage and that a third kiddo was on the way. The first of her 3 is with me if I haven’t mentioned that already. They also let slip that her new hubby could get a full time job in NC, he graduated from UCF [Go Knights!] with a Master’s [I think] in molecular biology, if not for the fact she can’t leave the state without written consent from me. Nor could she go visit the in-laws [who found out about the marriage after the fact] since my boy would need a passport.
Now crossing the border I’m sure she’s right about, but not so much about leaving the state. Probably she’s just trying to cross her t’s and dot her i’s. This, of course, was the first time I’ve heard about any of this as I’ve been out of contact with her for over a year now. True, some of that has been since I changed emails, but that’s only been the last few months. So now her in-laws are going to be giving her the number as well as my new email address. Here’s the thing before you get on to me. Even if she lost my number or email she still had my mother and grandparents contact info, and lives maybe an hour drive from them. They know how to get ahold of me.
They even mentioned that he might want to adopt my first in a year or two, which is something FW has mentioned before. As she lives in the state that holds sway over our divorce and any custody issues I’ve left it to her to do the footwork. In fact, that was one of the last things we talked about before the silence.
It goes without saying I love all my kids, but he is almost 8 now and I haven’t seen him in almost 7 of those years. Living half way across the country makes that impractical to say the least. He’s well educated, takes good care of them from what I’ve heard from my mom, and has been his father figure for 6 years now. There is no morale dilemma to me in saying I’m more than willing to sign over rights. Not to say that the removal of a financial burden that’s been neglected for so long won’t be a relief, it’s not a primary reason.
And that’s about all I have to say on the issue. Of course I wished all of them well before hanging up. This was just too odd an occurrence not to share with the few that read this blog regularly. Now back to your regularly scheduled program as I get back to Godzilla and Princess.
Until Later.
